Careless couple eat 4 of roommate's cupcakes, roommate tells her to break up with her boyfriend: 'She acts like I'm the meanest person ever'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jul 14, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

Everyone knows that food can hold a lot of emotional weight. It's often one of the best parts of the day. Food is what you look forward to when you get home, book a reservation, or go traveling. It's what connects us to each other, gives us something to bond over, and a connection to our cultures. So it's understandable that sometimes people get their feelings hurt over food. 

If I was looking forward to a plate of food in the fridge and after a long day, it wasn't there, I'd be pretty ticked off. But is that enough of a reason to end a friendship and roommate relationship? It depends on the food… But that's exactly the situation this pair of roommates found themselves in after one of them messes with the other's dessert. Read on for the story and see if her reaction was justified since things got very heated.

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    AITA for making a big deal over cupcakes?
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    It was my birthday and my mom made me 6 cupcakes and I ate 2. I put 4 in the fridge to enjoy 1 a day over the next few days. A little treat after work. I get home from work and all of my cupcakes are gone. I asked my roommate what happened and she had her
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    boyfriend over and they ate them. I was like . She told me she'd Venmo me for them. I told her they was made by my mom for my birthday. She told me that her boyfriend wanted them and put her in a tough spot and she hates to tell him no because he will get in a bad mood. I told her
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    to stop dating POS men and you won't have this problem. She act like I'm the meanest person ever and keeps sending me $10 on Venmo saying she's sorry and pouting around the apartment. I told her I'm not renewing the lease in September unless she dumps her boyfriend
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    and she said that's petty of me and she's in a tough spot and I need to stop making a big deal over the stupid cupcakes and if I was going to be such a baby she would have never ate them. I told _ point. her that's the
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    laughinglovinglivid. 21 hr. ago NTA, but I'd say stop saying 'I won't renew unless you dump your boyfriend' - the problem is her and her ability to say no. Just tell her you're not renewing as she has no respect for your property and be done with it.
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    WhoSleepin 21 hr. ago NTA. It's not just about the cupcakes; it's about respect and boundaries. Your roommate and her boyfriend ate something special to you without asking, and her excuse that she couldn't say no to him because he gets in a bad
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    mood is not a valid reason. You're right to be upset, especially since it was a birthday treat from your mom. Your roommate needs to understand that it's not okay to take your things, especially something with sentimental value. If she
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    can't respect your boundaries, reconsidering the lease sounds reasonable. You're not being petty; you're standing up for yourself.
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    No-Mango8923 - 20 hr. ago I was going to be such a baby she would have never ate them. Or... how about they just don't eat stuff that isn't theirs? It's not hard - if you didn't buy it or make it, you don't eat it.
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    I told her I'm not renewing the lease in September unless she dumps her boyfriend Pointless threat. She'll just find another loser to hook up with. Just don't renew the lease. Period.
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    • The-empty-box 21 hr. ago. She should replace the cupcakes with high end hand made bakery items. Secondly it's not your call to ask her to dump her boyfriend, at the very least she could jolly well replace him with somebody far worse if she stays so I would suggest you dump her instead. NTA. They are disrespectful of you and your possessions.
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    Radiant-Ability242. 21 hr. ago NTA. 4 cupcakes is $21 at our bakeries. ... AF.
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    Not_a_wannabe · 21 hr. ago No. You're aren't. You're right about the cupcakes, but let her keep the BF, and just find your own place and spring it on her 30 days before the renewal. I say let her go into her life with a BF who she doesn't have the courage to stand up to. He's the roommate in an here, your enabler. She deserves him, and she deserves you to leave when the lease is up.
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    Go-Mellistic 20 hr. ago She was afraid of his bad mood, and instead, she gets to deal with yours. Actions, meet consequences. Definitely recommend you find a new roommate. NTA
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    AwayWithDumb · 21 hr. ago . edited 21 hr. ago NTA. It's never okay to steal someone else's food, especially without asking. You can't just steal someone else's food and pay it back. If someone ever stole my food, I'd bill them for the cost of the food, plus an AH surcharge.
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    Longjumping-Bet5293. 21 hr. ago NTA. But the boyfriend isn't the problem, it's your spineless roommate. I wouldn't renew regardless.
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    ladystetson 21 hr. ago NTA eating one cupcake is maybe a mistake. Eating all 4 knowing they dont belong to her? that's just selfish and She can move right on out.
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